HOW TO CHOOSE A SPOUSE.(#adamandeve series on Twitter with Pastor Bolaji Idowu)

Pastor Bolaji Idowu

Pastor Bolaji Idowu

1. Good evening and welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. Do remember to invite your friends to follow the conversation.

2. Today we are going to talk about a sensitive topic: HOW TO CHOOSE A SPOUSE. I wish I could say there is a formula.
3. I really wish i could tell you there is a formula but OH NO! There are but only guidelines
4. Choosing the right spouse is critical to a successful relationship/marriage. Like as building a house, foundation is important.
5. If foundational issues are not addressed early, they are very difficult, if not impossible to correct.
6. Who you marry will hugely influence the direction of your life. A partner will either amplify your potential or practically stunt it
7. Solomon with all his wisdom was led astray due to wrong choice of spouse. Who you choose to marry reflects your level of wisdom.
8. Who you choose to marry is also important because the closest people to you influence your decision & also alter your destiny
9. If the choice of spouse is so important you then wonder why the hurry and desperation in all corners
10. One reason for wrong choice is DESPERATION to find someone willing to be in their lives without considering other factors.
11. Some are desperate to leave their parents’ house due to pressure from their parents. Others are because of age.
12. One key thing about desperation is, it makes you settle with what is not necessarily the best.
13. Desperate people have a tendency to excuse their choice and compromise vital values with the theory of “half bread is better”
14. I must say our culture promotes desperation, as single people are seen as incomplete or that Continue reading


Are you Teachable? (#adamandeve series on Twitter with Pastor Bolaji Idowu)

Pastor Bolaji Idowu

Pastor Bolaji Idowu


1. Good evening and welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. Kindly remember to invite your friends to follow the conversation.
2. Today we continue on reconciling differences in relationships & marriages if you missed it please read up on my TL (@pastorbolaji on Twitter)
3. Marrying/dating a difficult person is a task not fun, but our reaction to differences in relationships is vital to its sustenance
4. Most of us get shocked at our differences about life views and perspectives and as they unfold tension brews in marriage
5. Initially, differences are ignored but as we get deeper, ignored differences become DIS-INTEGRATING factors
6. When relationship/marriage is fresh, it’s normal to overlook differences, but this paralyzes the chance to negotiate for adjustments
7. Reconciling differences is simply helping your partner see your world view, perspective and also understand it
8. Unmanaged differences, sometimes bring deep hurts to partners. My advice is differences be discussed early & in healthy manner
9. The truth about differences is, most of it is not about who is right or wrong. It’s a function of perspective and background
10. A great error in relationship and marriage is to think you can change your partner. That has NEVER happened and it NEVER will
11. Key factor to developing teachable attitude is Continue reading

Lagos Public Transport Drama (Lesson One – Never whisper a bus stop)

Transport in Lagos

Lagos Transportation

Once you step into Lagos, know you are now in Lagos and you should embrace the spirit of Lagos. You can’t be dull and it is against the unwritten code of ethics to be sluggish or too relaxed. There are companies running urban taxi services with well educated drivers, however, if you never use the public transport system – Danfo, Coaster, LT, or those long buses that ply Oshodi isale (under bridge) or Ketu, you may be missing out on the fun, frenzy and drama of being in Lagos.

One of the most important unwritten laws of Lagos is that you must never, ever whisper your bus stop to the driver as he approaches it. NO! It doesn’t work like that in Lagos. Drama between bus drivers and passengers is sometimes because the passengers choose to ‘whisper’ their bus stop or use bedroom voice rather than say it loud and clear. Nobody cares if you have a sweet, sexy, soul melting voice on the bus, keep it and use it at home when you are with friends and family. On the streets of Lagos, you must learn to use your voice to your advantage and make it loud and clear.

As the driver approaches your stop, speak out loud, or better still, yell out the name of the bus stop and say “o wa” (pronounced “ower”). For example if your bus stop is Mile 2, just yell out at least twice “Mile 2 o wa oo” as the bus approaches it. The “oo” is simply for emphasis and is a long form of Continue reading