ACTS OF SERVICE – One factor that sustains marriage (#adamandeve series on Twitter with Pastor Bolaji Idowu)

Pastor Bolaji Idowu

Pastor Bolaji Idowu

Definition: Ajebutter – Someone born in a rich/wealthy family.

  1. Good evening and welcome to another insightful episode of #adamandeve. Do remember to RT, invite your friends to follow the conversation
  2. Last week we started a discussion on how to make your spouse happy. If you missed it, you can catch up on my timeline.
  3. It is important to state that finding the right partner is easier than keeping one.
  4. Many marriages fail because partners underestimate what it takes to keep a relationship/marriage going.
  5. The “they live happily ever after” is pure fantasy and not reality in most marriages.
  6. Happily ever after is possible if both parties are willing to pay the price to make it happen.
  7. Marriage/relationship can be sweet and fun if worked at. In continuation of our discussion on making your spouse happy…
  8. It is a scary fact that most lonely people in our world today are married women.
  9. This is because their hope of intimacy is dashed when they eventually get married and not happy in the marriage.
  10. Making your spouse happy is KEY to a lifetime love affair, and the principle is; what does she want? What makes her feel loved?
  11. Making your spouse happy is a selfless act with rewards. You need to master what makes your spouse happy not what you think.
  12. A man might just prefer affirmation from you than gift, but if you don’t understand, you will think he does appreciate the gift.
  13. Understanding what makes your partner feel loved is vital to making them happy. Some it is gifts, act of service/quality time
  14. This week, we are looking at ACTS OF SERVICE – Doing something for your spouse that they would like for you to do.
  15. This set of people, receive love when demonstrated by doing something (Mostly physical) for them
  16. Driving all the way to pick up your girlfriend from work even though the location is totally out of your route
  17. Buying a much needed gift though it’s a stretch on your wallet, the other party sees beyond the gift to the thought behind it
  18. The concept of Act of Service is, Love demonstrated through sacrifice/inconveniences.
  19. When love is demonstrated in a sacrificial way the value of such relationship skyrockets
  20. Sacrificial love shows more than anything that my partner values me above himself/herself and more than the whole world.
  21. How will you feel if your “AJEBUTTER” girlfriend had come in the rain to check on you when you were ill?
  22. How will you feel when your 5-foot boyfriend stands up to a 6-foot boxer telling him not to talk to you rudely?
  23. The feeling you get is awesome value and priceless! This is a by-product of Act of Service.
  24. Act of Service demonstrates that your partner will go out of their way to make you happy and won’t just leave it to gifts.
  25. They will also offer themselves, assistance, and skill; lend their ears in order to make you happy.
  26. When I talk about acts of service as an expression of love, am I talking about being a slave to your partner? NO!
  27. When we treat our spouses as slaves, we remove the possibility of love because we remove their freedom.
  28. “If you were a good spouse, you would do this for me” is not the language of love. It is language of manipulation, not love.
  29. Act of Service shows your partner that I’m not here to take from you but here to serve you and make you happy.
  30. As I conclude can you describe any act of service that you would have your partner do for you especially this season of love?
  31. Thank you for joining me tonight. Do remember to RT, comment and ask questions. Good evening #adamandeve

Extracted from Pastor Bolaji Idowu’s (@pastorbolaji) #adamandeve series on twitter and I think you should follow him. Info: #adamandeve series is live, every Thursday @ 5:30pm Nigerian time, on his TL (@pastorbolaji). Check here every Friday/Saturday for fresh #adamandeve series. Thirsty for more? Click to visit the main Adamandeve archive :


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