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We will be discussing HOW TO DEAL WITH PAINFUL BREAKUP AND DIVORCE.
It’s never easy when a marriage or significant relationship ends. Whatever the reason for the split, it can turn your whole world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful feelings.
You can either learn from the experience and grow into a stronger, wiser person or stay hurting and not move on.
Why do breakups hurt so much, even when the relationship is no longer good?
A divorce/breakup is painful because it represents the loss, not just of the relationship, but also of shared dreams.
Romantic relationships begin on a high note of excitement and hope, you dream of all that you can be together.
When these relationships fail, we experience profound disappointment, stress, and grief. A breakup or divorce launches one into uncharted territory.Everything is disrupted and looks bleak. Your routine, duties, your home, your relationships with extended family and friends, and even your identity are affected.
A breakup brings uncertainty about the future. What will life be like without your partner? Will you find someone?
These unknowns often seem worse than an unhappy relationship. Breakup and divorce is painful especially when you are still in love with the person despite apparent challenges.
It is painful to see the one you love walk away with another, memories of love filled times makes it HARD to forget. It is most painful when you need them to be there and they are nowhere to be found.
Divorce and breakup is painful when it is done without considering the other party. Truth be told, not every relationship/marriage will end up on a good note for different reasons. But it is just unfair and unacceptable to treat the other like “TRASH” during breakup.
Even when the relationship/marriage turns sour, it is important to treat the other with respect and fairness. I heard of a man that moved out of the house with the kids and all they own while his wife was away at work. UNFAIR!
For the sake of the love you once shared, it is good to be fair to the other party.
Breakup becomes very painful when you discover that your partner is a liar and your love story is but a pack of lies. Sometimes we get the shocker of our lives when the one we are in love with proves to be a liar and total stranger.
It’s heartbreaking to discover that the man/woman “I profess to love is fake, unreal.” All of a sudden your relationship becomes like an episode of African magic movie. When you have invested a significant part of your lifetime and resources in a relationship, breakup is painful.
How do you explain a lady engaged for 7 years only for the man to say he is no longer in love? How will you look at a man who patiently waited for you through college, paid your tuition and your siblings’? Only to say “Thank you for all you have done and God will send you your spouse but for me, I’m in love with another” UNFAIR!
No matter how well a breakup or divorce is done, it will still hurt.
Breaking up well only helps minimize the pain. Single people, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
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Extracted from Pastor Bolaji Idowu’s #adamandeve series on twitter and I think you should follow him (@pastorbolaji).
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