Friends, today we are sharing vital principles on a successful dating on #adamandeve. Insightful tips that will be beneficial to all.
For those who are married, you will still need to keep dating each other though you are married. When dating is properly done amongst singles or married, it keeps the magical flame of love glowing. The root issue of conflicts in marriage and courtship is that both party got busy with life and had no time for each other.
Success in relationship or marriage is not based on fluke/ feeling but on time tested principles. A leading cause of problem amongst partners is ignorance; Ignorance of the others’ emotional needs. It’s always heartbreaking for me to see highly passionate relationships been broken apart because of AVOIDABLE ERRORS.
Sometimes the hurts caused by the partner is too deep and beyond repairs. Here are some vital principles in dating successfully;
A relationship where there are more difference than similarities hardly work. These differences could be spiritual, physical, or social. The cause of conflicts is majorly difference in perspective due to background or exposure. Where there are differences between partners, successful relationship ispossible if the individuals can handle with patience.
When you don’t value the same things, agreeing will always be a nightmare. Such agreement will come at the expense of an unhappy partner, which can be depressive if consistent. Marriage and relationship thrive well, in a win-win environment. Developing a strong plan for dealing with difference is vital to any successful marriage or relationship.
DON’T PROMOTE SELFISHNESS;
Selfishness kills love all the time. .It is just very difficult to love a selfish and self centered person. The nature of love itself necessitates a response, to love based actions. When you are in a one sided relationship, after sometime, you begin to feel real stupid.
To succeed in relationship, we must learn to put the others needs above ours. The worst couples are selfish couples. Selfish partners always have good reasons, behind their action, except for their partner’s interest. It is human to be selfish. We must train ourselves to conquer this evil tendency.
Selfishness under values your partners needs and amplifies yours. Some men let their wives use public transport to transport themselves and kids to school, while he uses the only car SHAME! Some women will pressurize their husband to buy jewelry, to meet peer’s expectation, though he can’t afford. Many women are selfish with sex. They offer it to their husband as though it’s a contract.
The worst thing about a selfish partner is; it makes the other partner also selfish with time. A selfish relationship is a taker’s relationship; survival of the fittest. To date successfully, put the other first, though they could take advantage of it. Generosity is an all attractive quality in men and women.
I do hope you found this helpful and applicable. We will continue on this note next week, Thank you for joining in. .Do remember to RT, comment and ask questions, Good evening.
Extracted from Pastor Bolaji Idowu’s #adamandeve series on twitter and I think you should follow him (@pastorbolaji).
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