Patience & Forgiveness when you hurt in Relationship/Marriage

Marriages are not as good as they could be when someone holds on to the hurt their spouse has caused. I know it’s difficult to completely open yourself up after being hurt, but nobody can promise that loving someone won’t hurt.

In fact, you can’t love without being willing to be hurt. It’s not possible. You can’t have real love unless you are willing to forgive. Love trusts them over and over again, expecting them to do the right thing the next time, and believing the best of them. .

I realize there might be big hurts in your marriage, along with little things you deal with daily. If you’re struggling with unforgiveness in your marriage, ask the Lord to reveal what has caused you to feel bitterness. You may be surprised at what He reveals to you Continue reading

Dealing with the hurts in your relationship/marriage

Hello friends, how was your week? Thanks for joining us today on #adamandeve.

Today , I’ll continue on my discussion on I LOVE HIM BUT HE HURTS ME. If you missed previous episodes you can catch up on my Timeline.

One of the most difficult things to deal with is hurt from your partner. Such hurt is deep because, there is probably no one else to share it with than the person who hurt you. It is always painful if we are hurt from where we look up to for love.

Unfortunately, romantic relationships/marriages will sometimes produce hurts. Learning how to deal with hurts is essential.

One of the ways to deal with hurt is to deal with issues as soon as they arise. Allowing issues, hurts or anger to linger makes it degenerate in a bigger relationship or marriage problem. Continue reading

Xenophobia in South Africa. #ProsecuteAndApologize

Xenophobia is the unreasoned fear of that which is perceived to be foreign or strange. Xenophobia can manifest itself in many ways involving the relations and perceptions of an ingroup towards an outgroup, including a fear of losing identity, suspicion of its activities, aggression, and desire to eliminate its presence to secure a presumed purity – Wikipedia.

The recent xenophobic attacks in South Africa is one that has attracted strong condemnation from lots of African countries and the International community at large. The pertinent question however is, what has been done by the government of the day apart from issuing apologies? What happened to prosecutions? What happened to the million laws against murder and disruption of public peace? Is tendering an apology a substitute for state action against crime?

South Africa has unfortunately been selective in its choice of countries to even apologize to. Up till now, Nigeria hasn’t received any of such apologies, even though such an apology isn’t a substitute for arrests and prosecutions to forestall similar occurrences in future.

Of what use is this belated apology being tendered, albeit selectively anyway? Foreigners have been killed while those who perpetrated the crime are still walking freely on the streets of South Africa. Is this what we call citizen protection? Continue reading