Patience & Forgiveness when you hurt in Relationship/Marriage

Marriages are not as good as they could be when someone holds on to the hurt their spouse has caused. I know it’s difficult to completely open yourself up after being hurt, but nobody can promise that loving someone won’t hurt.

In fact, you can’t love without being willing to be hurt. It’s not possible. You can’t have real love unless you are willing to forgive. Love trusts them over and over again, expecting them to do the right thing the next time, and believing the best of them. .

I realize there might be big hurts in your marriage, along with little things you deal with daily. If you’re struggling with unforgiveness in your marriage, ask the Lord to reveal what has caused you to feel bitterness. You may be surprised at what He reveals to you; but when you see the truth, decide to let go of that grief.

Decide to forgive your spouse and walk in patience as you treat them with God’s amazing unconditional love. Perhaps you are waiting for your wife to finish dressing up when you are already 20 minutes late, or your husband puts his dirty socks or underwear on the floor, instead of the laundry basket.

When long married couples are asked the recipe for marital success, many identify patience as the key ingredient. It’s the indispensable virtue for living together every day in relative peace without constant struggle to change the other.

Patience in marriage begins with the individual. Our daily routine gives us ample opportunity to practice patience.

Patience with co-workers could translate into patience with spouse, and even children. We must be patient with everyone, especially with ourselves. Our faults and failings may tempt us to reproach ourselves harshly, and give in to frustration or despair.

If we learn to treat ourselves gently, we will be likely to extend the same to our spouse when they hurt us.
Couples need to be patient with marriage itself.

Healthy marriages grow and change. Like marriage, patience is a work of a lifetime. Each day brings an opportunity to cultivate the virtue.
When it is time to talk, try to help your partner understand your frustration.

Likewise, the offending partner should have the opportunity to explain their words or actions. It could be that you misinterpreted their motives. Clear this up and it will go a long way towards solving the problems.

People joke about marriages breaking up over toothpaste and toilet paper disputes, but it really happens. Hold your relationship dearer than the issue. Sometimes we get wrapped up in our hurt and lose sight of the bigger picture.

Remember, your relationship is your primary concern. Learn to be patient with one another and resolve all issues amicably. That would be all for tonight. If this has been helpful, please, send comments and questions to pastorbolaji@harvestersng.org God bless you.

Extracted from Pastor Bolaji Idowu’s #adamandeve series on twitter (@pastorbolaji).

Info: #adamandeve series is live, every Thursday @ 5:30pm Nigerian time, on this handle (@pastorbolaji).

Check here every weekend for fresh #adamandeve series or subscribe to posts by following my blog. Feel free to drop your comments too. I am passionate about making you see how to better your relationship/marriage.

Thirsty for more? Click to visit the main Adamandeve archive :

Advertisements

One thought on “Patience & Forgiveness when you hurt in Relationship/Marriage

What do you think? (Leave a Reply...)

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s