Saying “NO”to you.

This is a piece I wrote some years ago and I can’t help but smile at my seeming innocence when it was written. Do I still have this struggle now? Well, Yes, sometimes but not as intense. #Life. Enjoy.

“Dear LORD,

How are you today? I know you are always fine. I am here once again to report someone to you. It’s easy for me to say ‘No’ to everyone else except him.

Once he decides to go after something, it is difficult to dissuade him. He is so strong willed and it is always a tug of war trying to persuade him to jettison his thoughts.

Sometimes, he knows what he is going after is absolutely wrong, but he says sometimes that those things feel so good. He starts to come up with flimsy reasons why he should continue in the act, saying “it is just an adventure” and sometimes he says “Life is fun”.

I am getting tired of struggling with him, every now and then, so Dear LORD, I put him in your hands. I’m sure you know him already LORD. ”

…and the LORD replies…

“Dear son, Oh YES! I know him absolutely well. He is YOU.

It’s easy for you to say ‘No’ to everyone else except YOU. Right? Once YOU decide to go after something, it is difficult to dissuade YOU.

You are so strong willed and it is always a tug of war trying to persuade YOU to jettison your thoughts.

Sometimes, YOU know what you are going after is absolutely wrong, but sometimes those things feel so good.

YOU come up with flimsy reasons why YOU should continue in the act, saying “it is just an adventure” and sometimes YOU say “Life is fun”. You are tired of struggling with YOU every now and then.

Dear SON, I am always here, but it is your duty to learn how YOU will be tamed. YOU have desires that need to be controlled and properly channeled.

Saying ‘NO’ to every other person isn’t so difficult like you said, but the greatest challenge you may face in life, is saying “NO” to YOU.

Dealing with a lying partner (#adamandeve)

Hello friends, welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. Today, I start a new discussion on “DEALING WITH A LYING PARTNER.” Do remember to invite your friends to follow.

Being in a relationship with a lying partner isn’t fun. As a matter of fact it could be very agonizing. After a while, mistrust develops & other emotions – like bitterness & anger. Read on to find out how to deal with a lying spouse.

It’s hard to understand why your partner lies to you, since this was the person you vowed to love, honour and trust. Ideally, a relationship should be built on trust, respect and honesty. But when lying is involved, the bond is weakened.

Keeping important things to yourself and not sharing it with your partner might ruin your relationship. If you are involved with a compulsive partner, there is high probability that you constantly live in pain. Once you find out about the web of lies, it is usually hard to forgive. Pretty hard I must say.

Compulsive liars cannot help lying ‘even to their loved ones’. They lie so well that they can’t separate a lie and Continue reading

My frustrating experience and Solution to TimeService, MonkeyTest and other auto-installing Android apps.

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MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE IN DETAIL.

I noticed my Android phone (Android 4.2.2) one fateful afternoon had a small white dot by the side of the screen announcing one app called EasyTouch. This app I certainly didn’t install, it installed automatically and I simply uninstalled it. After about an hour, the same app was however found on my device.

For about five days, I was battling with automatic re-installation of this annoying app, which I uninstalled each time it did. I visited Play Store, reported the app, uninstalled it, disabled auto update, changed my phone setting not to allow installation from unknown sources (Settings –> Security—> unchecked “Unknown Sources”), etc. However, nothing I did seemed to work, the app always reinstalled itself after a while.

I finally decided to do a factory reset, but formatted my device’s internal and external storage if perhaps there would be no need to go that extreme. This also didn’t fix the problem, the app always reinstalled itself after some time. Whenever I uninstalled it and restarted my device, “Android is upgrading” would be displayed and then sadly, the app EasyTouch would appear.

I installed KingRoot, rooted my device, stopped apps from starting automatically during boot etc. Other apps stopped loading at boot after changing the setting, unfortunately, the EasyTouch app Continue reading

Things to consider before marriage happens

Good day friends welcome to another episode of #adamandeve. Today, we will continue our discussions from previous weeks. I do hope this discussion has been very helpful.

In continuation from last week, there are some factors that need to be considered before marriage happens. Is he or she accountable? This is being answerable to somebody else and this is needed for days when trouble wants to crop up.

The foundation of any relationship is trust, be it in a family bond, a work relationship, and especially in a marriage. The other person should be able to rely on, not just the truth of your words, but on dependability and consistency of your actions.

The basis of that trust is accountability. Can you trust each other’s words? Is there consistency of actions and attitude?

When couples are mutually accountable they allow for total access into each other’s lives.  They can trust each other. Accountability must be more than a noble declaration. It must become a lifestyle or else, it will not work.

Decision making: Does he seek your input before making decisions, especially one that affects both of you?

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How to know if he is serious about the relationship or just wasting your time.

Pastor Bolaji Idowu

Welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. If this is your first time of joining in, you’re in for a great time. Last week we started a discussion on “From dating to marriage. How long/short?” If you missed it, you can read up on my TL.

So how do you know if he is serious about the relationship or just wasting your time? One way to know is; Is there progress in the relationship? Are you guys progressing as a couple?

And by progress I mean, have you met his parents? Are you engaged? Is there marriage talks? Does he make adjustments to accommodate you in his life? Truth is, talk is cheap until proportional actions are made.

Some relationships/engagements are long because one party in the relationship is not ready to make commitments. Does he talk with you in his future? If he sees you in his future, actions like signing documents in your name will emerge.

Does he introduce you to significant people in his life? i.e. parents, siblings, mentor, pastor. Is he granting you unusual access in his life and all he owns? e.g. keys to his apartment, where he keeps his money etc. Continue reading