Dealing with a lying partner (#adamandeve)

Hello friends, welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. Today, I start a new discussion on “DEALING WITH A LYING PARTNER.” Do remember to invite your friends to follow.

Being in a relationship with a lying partner isn’t fun. As a matter of fact it could be very agonizing. After a while, mistrust develops & other emotions – like bitterness & anger. Read on to find out how to deal with a lying spouse.

It’s hard to understand why your partner lies to you, since this was the person you vowed to love, honour and trust. Ideally, a relationship should be built on trust, respect and honesty. But when lying is involved, the bond is weakened.

Keeping important things to yourself and not sharing it with your partner might ruin your relationship. If you are involved with a compulsive partner, there is high probability that you constantly live in pain. Once you find out about the web of lies, it is usually hard to forgive. Pretty hard I must say.

Compulsive liars cannot help lying ‘even to their loved ones’. They lie so well that they can’t separate a lie and the truth. A compulsive liar feels that it is natural to lie, so he is actually afraid of facing up to facts. He is always in denial. Usually, compulsive liars develop this habit at an early age and it is carried on to their adulthood.

Compulsive liars feel the need to lie about everything. A lie becomes not just a way of escape but normal life.  They are the ones who categorize lies as white, black, blue and all.

The truth be told, lying makes your partner unhappy. Liars believe they will get away with telling a lie. In fact, they want you to believe the lie they made up as the truth.

Compulsive liars usually experience jealousy and fear towards other people. He/She will also feel that since they are so used to lying, they can easily see through the deceit of other people. Thus, they show an air of authority, and they think that other people will never see through their lies.

The habit of lying has become deeply ingrained in their system that they find it hard escape from it. Learning how to deal with the hurt and resentment caused by lying can be very difficult to deal with. It can cause a lot of feelings of betrayal and can break down trust in the marriage.

Next week , I will address characteristics of a lying partner and how to deal with it. If you have any area you’ll want me to address about this issue, feel free to send me an email. pastorbolaji@harvestersng.org Thank you for joining me tonight, do remember to RT, comment and ask questions.

Extracted from Pastor Bolaji Idowu’s #adamandeve series on twitter (@pastorbolaji).

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