Welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. Today, we will be discussing SECRETS OF STAYING IN LOVE. Do remember to invite your friend to follow the conversation.
Although many do not believe in love, true love is sweet when experienced. Most people dream of marriage where they will live happily ever after but sadly, this is not the case for many. Most relationships and marriages in our world today, are living hell.
It is amazing that most married people wish they were single or never married. The pain of dashed expectations is what most people have to deal with after a failed marriage.
Some people are living together married but in reality, the marriage is dead.
If you are going to keep the passion in a relationship or marriage, you are going to
work at it. Far from the fairy love story, sustaining passion in a relationship or marriage requires work.
To everyone struggling in their relationship/marriage, I want to encourage you to hold on. Your response, during troubled seasons in your relationship/marriage, will either make or mar the relationship.
Troubled phase is seasonal and it will pass. Unwise people, make decisions that compound already heated situations.
The first key to staying in love is, FORGIVENESS.
According to research, forgiveness is one of the outstanding factors for lasting relationship. Nobody will test your capacity to forgive, like your partner. With closeness, there is tendency that your partner will hurt you either intentionally or not.
Forgiveness is a choice that makes relationship or marriage brand new. Forgiveness entails letting go of the past, its hurt, the pain and terrible occurrences.
Forgiveness, allows a couple to start their journey afresh despite all they have been through.
Sometimes, forgiveness does not make sense but, it is the only positive response to situations.
Forgiveness could be very painful in the perspective of the hurt. Forgiveness even becomes painful, when the person takes your willingness to forgive for granted.
It’s simply arrogant for one to be reluctant to apologize when wrong. Men, there is nothing “unmanly” about apologizing when you are wrong. The one that is willing to forgive is the matured one in the relationship.
Forgiveness helps bring closure to hurtful incidences in a relationship/marriage. Until you are a forgiving partner, it will be hard to move on in your relationship/marriage.
Can forgiveness be abused? Most definitely YES!
To help forgive your spouse, always remind yourself that you also have shortcomings. When you remember that you’ll also need forgiveness from your partner, it will help you forgive them when wrong.
The one that you love most will hurt you the most.
For the unforgiving partner, be careful so you don’t ruin your relationship.
For the forgiving partner, you may look stupid but the truth is, you are full of wisdom.
In conclusion tonight please note; Weak people revenge, strong people forgive.
Extracted from Pastor Bolaji Idowu’s #adamandeve series on twitter and I think you should follow him (@pastorbolaji).
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