Good day friends, welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. I always look forward to connecting with you on this series, which I believe has been of great help to marriages/relationships. Thank you for taking out time to follow this series, sending in questions. God bless you all.
If today is your first time of joining this conversation, you are welcome. Today, we shall be discussing the topic; HIGH MAINTENANCE RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE. As usual, we won’t do this alone, do invite your friends to follow this handle and join in the conversation.
Just recently, I was driving my SUV and the “maintenance” light went on. Not knowing exactly what “maintenance” needed to be done, my frustration was directed towards automobile manufacturers. I was angry at them for putting these lights into vehicles causing us to worry & go into a dealer and find out what it means.
“Maintenance” just wears me out – maintenance on cars, maintenance around the house, maintenance on my finances, etc. The word “maintenance,” associated with anything, can sometimes give an undesirable feeling.
The urban dictionary, defines high maintenance as; a person who has expensive taste (i.e. clothing, restaurants, etc.) People who are classified as “high-maintenance” are those who are often difficult to work with or be around.
A high maintenance man or woman often needs money to be happy. A high maintenance spouse, always wants the expensive and extravagant things. A high maintenance spouse wants to wear the latest label collection at all cost.
Truth be told, high maintenance behaviour is a recipe for marital disaster. The high maintenance spouse often claims their expectations are normal. A high maintenance behavior is characterized by excessive worthless spending. High-maintenance people tend to be needy a lot and complain when they don’t get it.
Being in a relationship with a high maintenance spouse can be frustrating and hard. This person feels they are better than most people and usually judge others based on outward appearances.
Being high maintenance can exhibit itself in 3 major ways; Emotional, financial and sexual. Financial high-maintenance people are the “gold-digger” who wants to be taken to expensive restaurants always.
Emotional high-maintenance people need lots of affection (you ALWAYS need to reassure them that they’re loved & cared about)
Next week, we shall be discussing ways to deal with a high maintenance spouse. Thank you for joining me today, do remember to RT, comment and ask questions.
Extracted from Pastor Bolaji Idowu’s #adamandeve series on twitter and I think you should follow him (@pastorbolaji).
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