SEVEN (7) WRONG REASONS FOR GETTING MARRIED!

Good day friends, welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. Today, we will be discussing “7 WRONG REASONS TO GET MARRIED”.  Do invite your friends to follow the conversation.

Saturdays, tons of ‘owambe’ weddings happen & it seems everyone is in a hurry to “catch the bae” & feature on Bella naija.

It’s February and there’s a major countdown to the “love season” February 14th the frenzy is high. If care is not taken, a lot of single people will come under pressure and depression.

The decision to marry is the biggest decision that most people make in a lifetime, it is safer to make that decision carefully.

Marriage is hard work, but so is divorce. Marriage is a delicate issue. The wrong choice of a spouse can cause an irreparable damage to one’s life.

If you buy a wrong house, car or television set, you can make do with it for a time and after a while, replace it. However when you marry the wrong person, you have made a wrong choice that would last a life time.

WHEN YOU MARRY FOR THE WRONG REASON, YOU MOST LIKELY HAVE MARRIED THE WRONG PERSON.

Reason Not to marry 1; Continue reading

IS DIVORCE EVER OKAY?

DivorceGood evening friends, welcome to December! It’s never too late to achieve your dreams, don’t lose hope yet. Today, we shall be addressing a topic many shy away from, but unfortunately, it is a reality these days & staring at us in the face.

You find two people who seem to be in love/inseparable, get married few months, years down the line; they want a DIVORCE! It almost seems normal these days, for couples to be “tired and want out” in a marriage.

Staying married these days almost seems abnormal. This makes me wonder, how did our parents stay married to each other with all the issues/problems they Continue reading

Saving a Sinking Relationship/Marriage III

Welcome to another exciting episode of #adamandeve, do remember to invite your friends to follow the conversation. We have been discussing ways to save a sinking relationship/marriage, if you missed it, kindly read up on this TL.

The DESIRE to save a relationship/marriage is the starting point in saving the relationship or marriage. Once the desire to fix the relationship/marriage is gone, all other efforts both internal and external will be futile. The key question to ask is: “Do I still want it?” The more challenging a relationship is, the weaker the desire to make it work.

Initially, everyone would go through thick & thin to save their relationship/marriage, but as time goes on, that desire weakens. To regain that desire, you need to be confident of a better future in your relationship or marriage. You must be willing to let go of the past and its pain believing for a better future.

Emotional divorce takes place when emotions and desires have been disconnected from our partner. Emotional divorce is a result of prolonged turning away of your heart from your partner. When you are emotionally divorced from your partner, you’re there physically but emotionally departed Continue reading

DEALING WITH BREAKUP AND DIVORCE (PART 2)

Good evening and welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. Last week we started the discussion on DEALING WITH BREAKUP AND DIVORCE and thanks to all that began talking about their hurts.

Sometimes all you have to do to get over the hurt is to reach out to someone and talk about it. In talking to someone about your hurt and pain, be sure they are people who have earned enough trust to be confided in. Talking to the wrong person can bring about your divorce and breakup can bring about more pain.

Talking to a person that has not proven trustworthy about your emotional struggle and pain is a total upcoming disaster. When breakup and divorce is not well managed, the result is emotional disaster.

It is unfortunate that many ladies have ended up in psychiatric hospitals because of unmanaged break up and divorce while many men have become drunks and emotional wrecks due to unmanaged breakup or divorce. Continue reading

HOW TO DEAL WITH PAINFUL BREAKUP AND DIVORCE (#adamandeve series on Twitter with Pastor Bolaji Idowu)

Good evening and welcome to today’s episode of #AdamandEvePstBolaji.

Today’s discussion promises to be an insightful one, do remember to invite your friends to follow the conversation.
We will be discussing HOW TO DEAL WITH PAINFUL BREAKUP AND DIVORCE.

It’s never easy when a marriage or significant relationship ends. Whatever the reason for the split, it can turn your whole world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful feelings.

You can either learn from the experience and grow into a stronger, wiser person or stay hurting and not move on.

Why do breakups hurt so much, even when the relationship is no longer good?

A divorce/breakup is painful because it represents the loss, not just of the relationship, but also of shared dreams.

Romantic relationships begin on a high note of excitement and hope, you dream of all that you can be together.

When these relationships fail, we experience profound disappointment, stress, and grief. A breakup or divorce launches one into uncharted territory. Continue reading