IS DIVORCE EVER OKAY?

DivorceGood evening friends, welcome to December! It’s never too late to achieve your dreams, don’t lose hope yet. Today, we shall be addressing a topic many shy away from, but unfortunately, it is a reality these days & staring at us in the face.

You find two people who seem to be in love/inseparable, get married few months, years down the line; they want a DIVORCE! It almost seems normal these days, for couples to be “tired and want out” in a marriage.

Staying married these days almost seems abnormal. This makes me wonder, how did our parents stay married to each other with all the issues/problems they Continue reading

Secrets of Staying in love (Cont’d)

Pastor Bolaji Idowu

Pastor Bolaji Idowu

Hello friends, welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. If this is your first time here, I am happy to have you join in. Do remember to tell friends to follow this handle, RT, comment and join in the conversation.

Last week, we started discussion on “SECRETS OF STAYING IN LOVE” if you missed that episode, here are some excerpts …

Forgiveness is a choice that makes relationship or marriage brand new. To help forgive your spouse, always remind yourself that you also have shortcomings.

Also remember, weak people revenge, strong people forgive. You can read up the rest on my timeline (@pastorbolaji).

To sustain the love in a relationship/marriage, communication is very important. Communication is the lifeline of any relationship. Any relationship, where communication is non-existent is as good as dead.
Great relationships/marriages, are talking relationships/marriages. Enjoyable marriages have in common, good communication.

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Resolving Negative Parental Consent towards marriage

Good day and welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. Today, we will be dealing with RESOLVING NEGATIVE PARENTAL CONSENT.

It’s common knowledge that in choice of who to marry, parental consent plays a key role.

Often, parental consent in marriage can be a manipulative tool in the hands of parents.

Parental consent is important since you don’t just marry your spouse, you marry into a family. Parental consent is also important as it helps to Continue reading

Dealing with a Lying partner II – The Approach

Good day friends, welcome to another episode of #adamandeve. Today’s episode promises to be helpful. Do remember to invite a friend to follow or to join in the conversation.

In continuation of our discussion on “Dealing with a Lying partner,” I will focus briefly on how to approach the situation.

So you caught your spouse lying, you are really hurt and upset. What do you do? How do you confront the situation?
One suggestion I have is to approach the discussion as a “conversation” and not as a “confrontation.”

Yes, I know you want to go straight to them and make them aware that you know what’s happening and you know the truth. You must speak as a team trying to find a solution. Rather than as though you are opponents in battle.

When you do speak to your spouse, do not focus on Continue reading

Dealing with a lying Partner (Cont’d)

Welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. It is always a pleasure doing this with you every week. Do remember to invite all your friends to follow this handle and join in the conversation.

Last week, we started a new discussion on “Dealing with a lying partner 1” and it generated tremendous response.

It seems everyone has been affected one way or the other by lies. Everyone agrees lying is a destructive habit that hurts you and everyone around you.

Dealing with a lying partner can be one of the greatest challenges in a Continue reading

Dealing with a lying partner (#adamandeve)

Hello friends, welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. Today, I start a new discussion on “DEALING WITH A LYING PARTNER.” Do remember to invite your friends to follow.

Being in a relationship with a lying partner isn’t fun. As a matter of fact it could be very agonizing. After a while, mistrust develops & other emotions – like bitterness & anger. Read on to find out how to deal with a lying spouse.

It’s hard to understand why your partner lies to you, since this was the person you vowed to love, honour and trust. Ideally, a relationship should be built on trust, respect and honesty. But when lying is involved, the bond is weakened.

Keeping important things to yourself and not sharing it with your partner might ruin your relationship. If you are involved with a compulsive partner, there is high probability that you constantly live in pain. Once you find out about the web of lies, it is usually hard to forgive. Pretty hard I must say.

Compulsive liars cannot help lying ‘even to their loved ones’. They lie so well that they can’t separate a lie and Continue reading

How to know if he is serious about the relationship or just wasting your time.

Pastor Bolaji Idowu

Welcome to today’s episode of #adamandeve. If this is your first time of joining in, you’re in for a great time. Last week we started a discussion on “From dating to marriage. How long/short?” If you missed it, you can read up on my TL.

So how do you know if he is serious about the relationship or just wasting your time? One way to know is; Is there progress in the relationship? Are you guys progressing as a couple?

And by progress I mean, have you met his parents? Are you engaged? Is there marriage talks? Does he make adjustments to accommodate you in his life? Truth is, talk is cheap until proportional actions are made.

Some relationships/engagements are long because one party in the relationship is not ready to make commitments. Does he talk with you in his future? If he sees you in his future, actions like signing documents in your name will emerge.

Does he introduce you to significant people in his life? i.e. parents, siblings, mentor, pastor. Is he granting you unusual access in his life and all he owns? e.g. keys to his apartment, where he keeps his money etc. Continue reading